You’ve probably heard the expression that forewarned is forearmed and relationships are no exception. Experts believe that all relationships go through particular stages and one of them is actually pretty critical. In this article we look at these stages and what you may need to be prepared for.
We at NY Searchs found it very interesting that all couples go through the same set of stages and can’t wait to tell our readers about them.
Stage 1: New love
You just met someone special and everything is in the honeymoon phase. You have butterflies every time you see your new love, every touch is electric, and every kiss is endless. You look at your phone every few minutes to see if you have a text from them. Deep inside you know that you look silly, but who cares. Well, my dear, you are clearly in love.
Capture in your mind how you feel right now, you may need it later to refresh your memory.
Stage 2: Settling down
You feel that it’s serious and you’re ready to commit. Normally at this stage, 2 people move in together, so let’s call it a “couplehood.” Well, that’s when you might realize that real life is not always giggling and flirting. You’re still trying to spend as much time together as possible, you want to share all your thoughts and feelings, you always ask your darling how their day has been, and you are sincerely interested in their answer. However, routine starts to contaminate the euphoria. It’s like finding the difference between traveling and immigration, the destination is the same, but the responsibilities are totally different.
Don’t lose that twinkle between the 2 of you. Dedicate some time just for you 2, go for a nice relaxing walk or to see a movie. Keep that bond, it’s very special and very delicate.
Stage 3: Routine and disappointment takes place
You still have strong feelings for your other half, but something seems to be different. You don’t feel as excited about spending every minute together as you used to. Everyday responsibilities, bills, work commitments, and housework gets in the way of romance, and sometimes you feel trapped in all this routine and begin to ask yourself if you have made the right choice. This is the most dangerous part of the relationship and if you manage to cross it together, there’s a good chance that the hardest part is over.
Work on keeping the spark, your partner is still the same person that you fell in love with. Try to always remember the feelings you had from the days when you were just dating. And remember that life is not just about your kids, you deserve some time for yourself too.
Stage 4: Stability
At this stage, you feel very secure in your relationship, you see each other as who you really are. You may not feel like you’re floating on clouds like you did in stage 1, but the 3rd stage of misery is over. You’ve also learned to give each other some space, you understand that your partner may have their own likes and dislikes, hobbies and habits, and it’s OK, you don’t have to be like Siamese twins all the time. You both can stay who you are as individuals and still keep your bond.
Stage 5: Commitment
If you got to this stage, congratulations, you’ve become a real lifetime team. You no longer miss the first romantic stage because you are very comfortable with your relationship and can’t even imagine it being any different. You have also accepted that we are all perfect in our own imperfections.
Teach your kids how you’ve maintained your feelings throughout your life, of course you’ve been through some challenges together, but true love can handle those.
Can you relate to these stages? Do you have your own recipes for how to pass the critical part? We would love to know what you think about this.
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